Friday, June 4, 2010
XC - Quarter 4 - Babies
I thought that the baby in Mongolia was neglected a little too much; he was tied up, left on the bed, and really did not have much to play with. All the baby got after birth was getting breastfed but the mother also tried to force the baby to drink milk; she even squirted milk at him. Although some may argue that babies should drink milk at specified times, I did not think the mother had the patience to allow the baby to drink the milk for himself rather than squirting milk at him. When the baby did something wrong, like the time he spilled the water, he was scold at and spanked on the butt. It seems like discipline were taught by raising voices and spanking but the mother also did not show sympathy; she walked away when the baby went near her. I feel like the movie portrayed this baby to be the slowest to learn how to walk and I think this was caused by the mother's negligence. Then again, the movie also showed that he did not give up trying to get the paper towel while the movie kept going back to the Japanese baby.
While these two babies were often neglected, I feel that the Japanese baby had too much attention after birth. It was either because the mother and the father attended the baby too many time but this baby gave up more easily when she could not figure stuff out. I think the baby was also a little neglected when she was at the dinner table; the mother was busy and left her alone. As the baby got older, the parents left the baby at a daycare center while they went to do their own thing. The father was talking on the phone while using toys to entertain his baby and I think this distances himself from the baby.The good things that this parent did was taking her to interacting lessons and taking her to the park to interact with others. And although she was at the park, the parents were not in the camera half the time so they might or might not have been there to supervise.
The main thing I did not like about the baby in San Francisco was the fact that the baby was all wired up and was packed like a present. The other thing was when he was left on the door bouncing while his mother was cooking something. Based on an article I read online, it said that parents should allow their baby to watch everything they do. The mother should have held her baby so she can connect better with her baby while she was cooking. Other than that, I think the parents did a pretty good job taking her to lessons and allowing her to do things herself. The father allowed her to peel her own banana and take a bite of the nasty part, so she can learn to not eat that part the next time.
I noticed that many societies want their babies to first learn the word "mom." In the movie, the father was no where to be seen in Namibia and in Mongolia; they were rarely seen in San Francisco and in Japan. Since the mother took most of the time raising the baby, they feel that it is right for them to have their baby learn the word "mom" first. This way, they know that they matter to the baby's existence and that ten months of pregnancy mattered. And even though the babies could have been just making sounds, the moms like to perceive these sounds as "mom."
Monday, May 24, 2010
Parenting 102
Monday, May 17, 2010
Parenting 101
I think I would be a horrible parent and this is why I wonder whether a child should have all the attention or not. Kids need a lot of attention, thus, they should be treated like puppies. But if the kid is capable of acting like an adult (which is rare), then I believe that they have the right to be treated like adults. I think that parenting can come naturally if one can pick it up quickly when exposed to other parents and their kids. But I think that there should be some research done; does not have to be books, could be asking other parents for help. My parents never read books on parenting; I think that my mom learned to parent from her parents, just by observing how she and her siblings were treated. She probably asked her mom when she was helpless at times but she knew how to treat a swollen ankle with starch and vinegar. Kids learn from their parents, therefore, if they were physically disciplined, then they will discipline their kids physically also.
The authoritative, authoritarian, and permissive parenting styles were first introduced to me two or three years ago. At that time, I thought the authoritative (consisting of elements from both the authoritarian and permissive) parenting was the ideal type of parenting. However, in the parenting descriptions, Baumrind makes all of then sound beautiful and positive in their own way. Then in the background information, she seems to favor the authoritative parenting, then the authoritarian parenting, and implies that the permissive parenting does not work at all. I think that my mom is using the authoritarian parenting style; I tend to give up easily and my brother often swings his arms when he does not get what he wants.
I think the Attachment Parenting website basically states things that a nurturing mother should know with a few exceptions that I learned. It should obvious that the mother should be physically close with her child; this includes breast feeding and sleeping with the child. What I did not know is that carrying your baby around wherever you go allows the child to be more alert. The website also touches upon the question of whether a mother would be spoiling the child if she attended to all the child's needs. The website says that being attentive to the baby's needs builds trust between the baby and the parent. When, then, does a mother stop attending to the baby's needs; when does the baby start to take advantage?
Saturday, May 15, 2010
Interviews & Survery Questions
- open are you?
- easily do you make friends?
- difficult do you find it to approach someone?
- much do you avoid unnecessary interactions?
- much do you talk?
6. Do you talk to your acquaintances about your life? If so, why?
Person #1:- open are you? 4
- easily do you make friends? 4
- difficult do you find it to approach someone? 2
- much do you avoid unnecessary interactions? 4
- much do you talk? 3.5
6. Do you talk to your acquaintances about your life? If so, why? No
Person #2:
- open are you? 4
- easily do you make friends? 5
- difficult do you find it to approach someone? 1
- much do you avoid unnecessary interactions? 5
- much do you talk? 4
6. Do you talk to your acquaintances about your life? If so, why? Yes; because if they want to know, I'm open to telling them. Just not the really personal stuff.
Person #3:
- open are you? 2
- easily do you make friends? 5
- difficult do you find it to approach someone? 3
- much do you avoid unnecessary interactions? 1
- much do you talk? 3
6. Do you talk to your acquaintances about your life? If so, why? No
First I needed to determine whether or not the person I interviewed was an extrovert so I stole the first 5 questions from the personality test we took. The way I determined this was, the person had to score a 3 or above on questions 1,2, or 5 or a 3 or lower on questions 2 and 3. If the person fulfilled 3 or more of these criteria, then that person is an extrovert. By looking at my data, all three of them fulfilled 4 of the criteria. Then I wanted to see whether they interacted with their acquaintances and were open enough to tell their acquaintances about their life. To my surprise, only 1 person would. This interview/survey provided evidence to support the claim that being more social does not mean that one needs more attention from the people they see daily. But I think this survey was not enough to determine this; instead of asking whether they talk to their acquaintances about their life, I think I should have made it broader and asked how many times they make conversations with their acquaintances and about what. This way, we get to see why people need other people and how frequently do we ask of our acquaintances.
Survey Question: How often do you talk to your acquaintances about your life?